Dear Church Hunter…

Dear Church Hunter,

I write to you today letting you know you’re not alone. A lot of us are out there searching for a new home too. I’m currently on the hunt to find the place that I can believe in, have confidence in, dive deep in, have community in, worship in, grow in… It can be a tough challenge finding a church. Every time you find a new one you feel a little awkward because you’re getting the lay of the land trying to figure out what’s going on. You’re also trying to get yourself out of your comfort zone to see if this is a congregation you want to be apart of. Sometimes you end up in a place you had no idea what you were getting yourself into and it’s not what you believe in at all then you feel like you couldn’t run away faster. On the other hand, there’s that time that you just walk through those front doors and you feel the Holy Spirit telling you, “Yes.” As I’m on this hunting journey I’ve figured out a few things that are some red flags, some good indicators, and some things that are just food for thought.

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How to Talk to the Unemployed…

Let’s be straight for a second… most of us out there that are unemployed don’t like the word unemployed. We like to use words like job hunter because that is our current job is finding a new one. Unemployed is not a fun word. It has a huge negative connotation to it. People will turn their noses up at you when that word is labeled as you. Ultimately, it’s just a word, but it still kinda stinks. Overall, I’m still technically unemployed so it’s going to get brought up a lot so I might as well get used to it. Continue reading

When You Try And Try…

Do you ever just completely get down on yourself and feel like a failure? Maybe it’s just me, but it’s happened to me quite a bit lately because life can just be a little crazy sometimes. I have been trying so hard to be better at pretty much every single aspect of my life that my “trying” has made things even harder. My trying has built up worry in me, fear, doubt, and failure. I can’t be perfect, but man, I’m trying to be better.

I’m really good at letting Satan do his job on me. I don’t know why I continue to let him, but I’m trying to work on it. Satan is so good at worming his way into my thoughts when I have a short temper on something, when I am nervous about something, when I’m assuming about something, etc. Pretty much anything that I have a weakness with he finds the perfect setting for me to just walk through. He places doubt. He places fear. He puts so many ungodly thoughts in my head that I have now come to realize that life, a lot of the time, is a battle to fight Satan’s power over me. Continue reading

The Hallmark Spark

Oh Hallmark, how I love you so…

You pull at my heartstrings.

You show me relationships that get connected then torn down for one commercial break, then rejuvenated in the last 8 minutes of the movie.

You pick the most beautiful towns and neighborhoods in the US that I know I will never be able to afford to live in.

You have characters that have the dream jobs everyone would kill to have.

Most of all, you make me believe in the fairytale ending.

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Tell Your Heart to Beat Again.

Where do we go after we’ve been through the valleys? Who do we trust again after all the deep scarring? What can we allow our hearts to believe again? How much can we let someone in again? I think it’s one of the scariest things in life is to let someone enter your heart after all the excruciating pain. I see this happen the most when it comes to dating. Most of my readers know from past posts that I’ve been in a few abusive relationships. That hasn’t helped me in my dating life… at all… You promise yourself every day you’ll never let someone cause you pain like that ever again. It’s harder for people like us to fully trust others in dating relationships because abusers can take a giant piece of you. They can steal your ability to love again. They ruin your self-esteem. On top of it, all the abuse makes you build thick, wide, stone walls so you can’t get hurt again.

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